THE BEST QUOTE THAT I'VE EVER SEEN

Nasihat jatuh cinta, kata-kata dibawah ini gue kutip dari akun line Utari Eka Rulita
Terimakasih Mbak Eka, kata-katanya menampar sekali😀
Gue amat sangat mengapresiasi dan mengambil nilai positif, dimana dari kata-kata ini ada benarnya juga bahwa di umur 20 tahun ini akan sulit untuk jatuh cinta dan kita udah mulai beranjak dewasa, dimana nggak mudah buat asal suka sama orang tanpa memikirkan nilai baik atau buruknya.
Dimana di umur sekarang, kita itu mencari seseorang yang benar-benar cinta sama kita dan siap berbagi dan merencanakan rencana jangka panjang untuk ke depannya.
Dimana di masa ini, kita juga harus berpikir bahwa suatu hubungan itu harus punya tujuan bersama, bukan buat main-main.
Daan masih banyak lagi nilai positif yang bisa diambil dari semua kata-kata Mbak Utari.
I'm so speechless to read this.
So, you guys can read the extraordinary opinion from her.
Hope, you like it <3

For those who might have been in their 20s or going to be in their 20s.

I know it is very hard to fall in love in this age. I mean, practically, it's hard because you are no longer a teenager who can easily like someone without thinking about the plus and minus points of his/her, like someone without even think about will your future plans be matched each other, or even as simple as "Can we even get along for a long time periode without any doubts?" 

Well, I bet all of us in our twenties are facing the same problem. 

Fall in love in this age is about looking for someone who will truly love us just the way we are. It's all about looking for someone who will try as hard as you've been doing so far. And it's simply about looking for someone who is ready to share his/her future plans with you. 

It's not the time to have a relationship without any goals, without any visions, it's not the time to play, and it's not the time to choose someone to be your partner based on their look only. It's time to choose wisely, for once in a life time this might be your biggest decision. Sometimes, I found it odd, when there are people who easily confess their love like there's no burden at all knowing that they have to deal with him/her, they have to tie their commitment to be together. But then you have to end your relationship because of one and another things, and easily say goodbye.

Isn't it hurt if you choose to be their partner but then you break up your relationship? Isn't it hurt your feeling seeing someone who used to be your lover holding other's hand?

It's not about only him/her who we are going to deal with, but all the people around them, and even the whole things in his/her life. Their family, their friends, their problems, and even their comfort zone. Have you been ready enough to meet his/her family ? Have you been brave enough to come into his/her comfort zone? Have you been ready enough to deal with him/her in bad and good sides of them? -because some of them only shows their good image while dating.

It's never easy to deal with someone who will be your whole life time partner. Your significant other. And yeah, those who haven't found their partner doesn't mean that they're not ready yet, but they're still trying to fix their heart, preparing everything for both of you, and upgrading themselves to be better and better, so that when the time is coming, they'll be perfectly ready to deal with every single thing in his/her life. 

For me, personally, dealing with people can not be that easy. It takes time. It takes much effort.

Because, diving into your mind and soul will never be as easy as praising your appearance

UNPREDICTABLE

Dear the nice man that I've ever met....

Thanks for coming in my life. I know, time fly so fast and everything has changed. I remember when you text me via line then you asked me to acquainted. Then, we continued to unrequited message. We talked about so many things. I remember when we talked on free call and you told a stupid jokes, then we laugh together or you told me about your story. Almost four months, I knew about you from yourself and I was stalking your social media. Four month, I knew you, and you gave me a positive energy. I remember, you came to me when I feel complicated because I miss someone and in the same time my ex asked me to getting back together, I choose to ignore them and I thought if I should start a new world. I choose to give a positive respond to you, I thought if we can be a good friend and I can forget about all the sadness before. Day after day, we always text on line, and you be different from each other. You're funny person, and I felt comfortable with your personality. I liked you slowly. But, I've heard news. You approached me when you just break up with your girlfriend and I was really shocked. I thought if you contact me for your happiness after you break up and if you was happy you could leave me easier. But, I ignore my mind. And we still communicate via line even we never meet before and I know you from video call or your profile picture. Until I felt bored with this situation, and I told my friend about story between us. I got a bad news then I feel disappointed. My friend told me when you in relationship with your girlfriend, you have a date with the other girl and you broke heart your girlfriend. Your player. I can imagine how deep the pain when you do that to your girlfriend. I thought if you can do the same things with the next girl. “When you have a relationship, you could be a player in a backstage, how about me whose nobody to you? Maybe you can do the same like you do to each other for your happiness” So, i never reply your message again and you never sent me a message too. We lost contact until I saw you posted a picture about your birthday on instagram.

Then, I sent you greeting birthday via line. I thought to gave you a something, and I got an idea. I draw something for you. When we are in college and I got a new schedule, I asked your friend about you and I was happy when I knew if every Wednesday we have a same place for different subject. I asked my friend to gave my doodle to you because I have a class. So, my friend gave it. I never thought if you want to text me again like before. I was surprised when you text me on line and you said thank you for the gift. We can communicate again and I was happy. I can't lie if I really like you. We have a text every day, until you asked me to have a meeting in Sunday morning, I was really happy and I said yes. I told my friend about our schedule to met, and my friends was happy too. Its first time we could meet. So, one day before met I was prepared my self. I won't give a bad impression. And the night before we met, we have a free call then you gave me jokes. You said if I was nervous when I heard your voice. I said no, but the truth is yes. My heart was beating. We laugh together in free call and...

To be continue....

MOVE ON

           Putus cinta emang pahit, tapi ngga akan pahit beneran kalo kita yang nentuin segimana lamanya kita bakal ngerasain pahit terus. Hidup masih terus jalan, kita ngga mungkin kan buat terus-terusan galauin beginian?

Abis putus cinta, itu ada dua pilihan, antara lu mau terpuruk di keadaan itu dengan sedih-sedihan atau lu move on?

Dan ini opini gue..........

Gue masih belom ngerti sama apa definisi move on yang sebenernya. Kebanyakan orang mengartikan kalo move on itu proses lupain masa lalu dan biasanya dilakuin setelah mereka putus(?)

Tapi menurut gue, move on ngga seharusnya kaya gitu. Move on itu bukan melupakan apa yang udah terjadi, tapi move on itu proses buat belajar ke depannya dan berhenti ngelakuin apa yang sebenernya sia-sia. Misal, berjuang untuk sesuatu yang ngga seharusnya lu perjuangin. Banyak orang yang salah arti sama yang namanya move on, mereka terlalu berambisi besar buat lupain masa lalu dan orang yang pernah ada di hidup mereka, itu sebenernya salah. Kalo menurut gue, move on bukan buat diucapin, tapi cukup dilakuin, move on bukan berarti melupakan mantan, tapi belajar buat berhenti sayang sama mantan, dan ngga musuhan #aseeek.

Move on emang ngga segampang balikin telapak tangan. Move on itu butuh proses, dimana di proses ini kita harus bener-bener ikhlas, kalo udah ikhlas ke depannya jadi gampang kok. Gue ngomong gini karena gue pernah ngerasain prosesnya... 

Awal move on emang berat, dimana yang biasanya lu bareng-bareng, lu habisin waktu sama hp lu diramein sama orang yang menurut lu berarti, tiba-tiba semuanya berubah..jujur, itu kehilangan. Tapi move on nggak akan berhasil kalo lu belum ikhlas.INGET LU KUDU IKHLAS!  Setelah ikhlas, proses selanjutnya adalah lu singkirin barang-barang dari seseorang itu, bukan dibuang, tapi cukup simpen ditempat yang jauuuuuh  dari jangkauan anak-anak *loh?

Ya maksudnya simpen jauh-jauh biar lu ngga buka-buka atau liat lagi ketika lu kangenin dia, nanti gagal move on mau?hihihihi

Abis itu, lu cari kesibukan yang bikin lu lupa sama semua kenangan manis lu, lu cari temen sebanyak-banyaknya buat memperluas pergaulan lu, jangan biarin lu terus-terusan sendiri, yang ada bakal keinget sama hal yang ya....................................

Oiiya btw, ketika move on, lu ngga seharusnya juga ngehindar dari mantan, kita harus tetep jaga silaturahmi sama dia, kan inget move on bukan berarti musuhan:)

Oke, mungkin itu definisi move on dan itu baru proses awal, syukur Alhamdulillah gue udah berhasil yeyeyeye!!

Dan buat semua readers yang baca, semoga kalian bisa ngerti makna dari kata "move on" yang sebenarnya.

Sampai ketemu sama cerita baru gue nanti! 

Keep calm, strong, and moving on!